In today's Sunday Zoom a question to the effect stated in the title of this thread was posed by Raphael Raul.
In response, TauPhi resoundingly rejected any consideration that the pleasure of the one might be evaluated as "greater" than the pleasure of the other.
We'll continue this discussion next week as part our next Sunday Zoom, but I'm setting up this thread to allow for further discussion in the meantime.
My summary of the issues is doubtlessly superficial but hopefully this is enough to preserve the sense of the discussion.