The deepest dilemma in Epicureanism arises from the very definition of pleasure as the supreme good: how do you choose – at every moment – between multiple pleasures and pains, so as to achieve happiness (ataraxia + aponia) without causing yourself unnecessary suffering.
The fundamental dilemma: short-term pleasure vs. lasting happiness
Immediate pleasures vs. future consequences
An intense pleasure today (heavy meals, drinking, fleeting passions) can generate a chain of later pains (indigestion, hangover, addiction).
The dilemma: is it worth sacrificing peace of mind and physical well-being for a punctual satisfaction?
Choosing Desires
Epicurus classifies desires into:
Natural and necessary (simple food, shelter, friendship)
Natural but unnecessary (moderate luxuries)
Unnatural and unnecessary (fame, excess wealth)
Dilemma: where do you draw the line between reasonable effort for “useless” pleasures and the risk of losing balance?
Sacrifice for friendship vs. prudent self-isolation
Friendship is essential for Epicurean happiness, but it involves vulnerability (pain of loss, conflict of interest).
Dilemma: when is it wise to involve your resources (time, emotions, money) in the community and when to keep your distance to protect your own ataraxia?
Why is it so profound?
Because there is no mathematical recipe: decisions are always contextual, personal and influenced by concrete circumstances.
Even the virtue of prudence – the faculty that selects the right pleasures and pains – must be applied without falling into decisional paralysis: too much analysis can prevent you from enjoying life.
“Of all pleasures, the greatest are those that bring no pain.”
— Epicurus, Capital Maxims
Every moment we are questioned:
“Can I obtain this pleasure without disturbing my peace?”
“Is it worth the effort to remove a small pain if it puts me in an endless race of remedies and worries?”
How does this dilemma help us in practice?
Self-knowledge – identifying your own threshold of discomfort and essential needs.
Constant reflection – reviewing the choices you have made, giving up desires that have proven unsustainable.
Cultivating prudence – do not repress every pleasure, but do not obsessively chase it either.
In essence
The Epicurean dilemma is a subtle dance between two extremes:
Excess pleasure which – paradoxically – generates pain.
The fear of suffering which – in turn – enslaves life.
The solution is not a fixed algorithm, but the art of balance through prudence and friendship, so that pleasure remains “gentle” and pain – bearable and curable.