Just as an aside, I am at peace with the idea that if I live for another 30 years into my doddering old age I will still be engaged in this precise debate til the very end.
There's no getting around it: people come to the discussion thinking about their own experiences, and they have their own definitions. I do that too.
But in order to be able to carry on a clear conversation, we have to take a lot of time to explain what the words mean in a particular context. Most of the good people who are smart enough to reject the mainstream and come to the study of Epicurus know enough to realize that the mainstream doesn't make sense, but they haven't taken seriously what the Platonists and Stoics were really saying. They don't get the implications of "virtue is its own reward" and what "good in itself" is really talking about. They think that the Platonists and Stoics and everyone else just wants to live a happy life, and the only thing that separates us is the details of how to get there.
I want to be clear than I don't think I am smarter than other people and I certainly could be wrong, but until you go through the details of the Platonic arguments in Philebus and elsewhere I don't think most people today will appreciate the differences and the depth of the word game that's involved in explaining those differences.
And that means that for the six or so years that this website has existed we have gone round and round on that issue. No matter how long it continues to exist into the future, and so long as new people come to the discussion, it will be necessary to go into it over and over again.
So I hope we all enjoy the ride and maybe every time we go through it we can find new and better ways to explain what it's all about.
The time to worry would be if we don't have this discussion, because that would indicate we are stagnant and not expanding.